Ghosting has worked its way into all forms of relationships these days.
Ghosting is having someone that you believe cares about you, whether it be a intimate or platonic friend, family member, work cohort etc…. disappear from contact without any explanation at all.
In other words, they have disappeared emotionally, verbally, and physically.
This cruel practice is not just a millennial thing, romantic relationship thing, or occasional thing. Through my work as psychotherapist, coach, and consultant I have experienced many clients (including myself) that have been “ghosted” in all sorts of relationships.
I believe this is one of the symptoms of our increasingly separate society fueled by fear, contempt for others, intolerance for differences, and a lack (or forgotten) awareness of the power of kindness, compassion, and common politeness.
The power of of a smile, a kind word, a check in with someone for no other reason than to let them know you are there has the power to transform someone and yourself at the same time.
Ghosting has been occurring in all sorts of relationships and in my unscientific opinion has been escalating quickly.
Here’s the real scoop. If you decide to take this route to send a message, it’s important for you to know what you are manifesting (even when you think you are just avoiding discomfort).
This act more closely mirrors cruelty, weakness, and lack of self worth.
And since most of all what we do (and don’t do) in this lifetime is ultimately about us (psychologically whether we know it or not), these type of ghost like behaviors shed much more light on who we are at that moment than the person we are intending to send this harsh message.
Let’s wake out of this negative trance of cruelly isolating each other and get real. This act is cowardly and beneath each of our Wise Selves.
There is enough anxiety and loneliness going around, don’t you think……